A Spark that Lit a Flame

Good Evening World Wide Web!  Welcome to We Check Other.com.  If this is the first time that you’ve seen this page I would like to first off welcome you.  I want to give you the short reason of why I am here and what my goal is.  I am here because I am the mother of inter-racial AND inter-cultural children.  My goal is to eventually have a community of parents, grandparents, friends, family and just simply people who identify with this multifaceted issue in some capacity.  The truth of the matter is I’ve found that most people need support who are living outside of their comfort zone; loving and co-existing with people unlike themselves.  I have a vision, but as I’ve come to realize in just getting starting, some things just don’t go exactly as we plan.  I’m ready to just let this vision take shape, and re-baseline if necessary.  I want to share with you an experience that started me on my journey over 5 years ago.

It was 2007; the year of the birth of my daughter.  Patiently awaiting her arrival surrounded by loved ones, friends and family with the best of intentions.  It started to receive comments that some even considered to be compliments.  I am brown, culturally American (I’ll explain later to not loose track)  and my husband is brown, culturally Hispanic.  My attempt to illustrate is to give you an idea, a vision if you will of what the world SEE and ultimately what determines the realities of race and culture in America and throughout the world.   I am BLACK and he is HISPANIC, according to the boxes.  By the way, one is a color and the other is a culture.  “I sure hope she gets his hair” someone from MY side says.  “Do you think she will have BLACK lips or a BLACK nose?”  Someone from his side asks, and the list go on and on.  Once my perfect little daughter arrived, I noticed the checking her for “RACIAL FEATURES.”  She has a nose like her father, and hair.  She looks like him, but she’s still black,”  Someone said to me.  I realized then that this gravitation to want to find a box, where you fit a few of the items and we’ll put you there was coming alive with my daughter.  The reality of the situation is that she is both, and had no typical bias features of either race that I noticed.  The only correlation I could think of was mixing red and blue.   I am going to visually mix the colors red and blue.  If I can see red more than the blue, then it’s red.  Right?  The reality is it becomes purple, a totally different color.  It even becomes apart of a different color scheme.  Here’s a vision.  I see an argument among adults over who is right and a child caught in the middle.  One that will only understand the bias from their home and possibly hasn’t learned one.  Fresh and close to REAL LOVE.   One that LOVE both parents and have features where they now don’t resemble one race in particular.  They resemble both of them.   Of course, my daughter is not a crayon, but my job as a mother is to instill within her that the human existence will deliver to her anything that she is passionate about.  Whether she feels comfortable co-existing comfortably within the 2 cultures in her case, or whether she gravitated towards one in particular, the decision should be hers, not that of bias, racial ignorance or racism.  How do you achieve that?  My idea is to allow more consideration for OTHER, and keep your boxes.  We don’t need them.  I will check OTHER.  Let me mention my past, and tell you my ancestry.  If we must deal with what some consider to be facts, then do a DNA test.  For some that won’t even generate high numbers of what the world SEE.    Tell me what you think.  I am open to ideas.

Thank you so much for tuning in.  Until next time.  What is your OTHER?

Facts Overload/Getting Started


Good Early A.M. World Wide Web.  I wanted to start with plenty of facts to begin the community.  It’s amazing how facts can omit some of the obstacles that could come up.   I will create rules of engagement to protect anyone in this community as it grows.  I realize that the world isn’t quite ready to hold hands and sing cum-ba-ya, so any bullies in the room will be omited and reported to law enforcement if necessary.  There will be plenty to come.  I’ve never actually felt so alive.  Since I decided to listen to the Divine voice that has been urging me to get started for about a year now, I feel my inner self growing daily.  I’m now literally walking around with a pen a paper recording every single idea that comes into my mind.  I am learning so I ask your patience as this is a completely new experience for me.  We Check Other is my passion, but electronics haven’t been nice to me lately!  I’m taking the punches and spending time getting  to know the protocols better.  Please be sure to check out my pages on facebook and twitter



Once I get the pure hang of getting all of the programs connected, I plan to take you with me on my smart phone.

Hello World!

Hello World!

Welcome to a dialogue, with an intention to educate, celebrate, and every now and again attempt to define what “OTHER” means to the human kind.  We check other is an idea birthed from a real life issue that as a mother of multi-racial and multi-cultural children, I’ve found to be so 19th century.  Pre-evolutionary!  Oh how the world has evolved!  We have cars, lights, houses built in days instead of months by life sized machines.  We have buildings that attempt to touch the sky, women can learn now and participate in society.  So many items and events that have shaped our existence.  Milestone after milestone we move forward and continue to grow with the sweat of the human resolve.  With the evolution and the passing of laws throughout the U.S. and some parts of the world people who don’t look or think exactly alike have been allowed to co-exist.  From that cohabitation, millions of children are born each year, and they are left to fall through the cracks of a cracked society.  One that hasn’t quite mended all of the wounds of the past in order to facilitate a stable foundation to continue to move forward.  These children love a mother that looks different from their father or vise versa, and even participate if different sometimes conflicting cultures.  Some have grandparents, siblings, cousins, uncles, aunts and additional family members who look different, believe different, were raised completely different, yet they are being provided a unique opportunity within the confines of their home to enjoy them both…sometimes.  Outside of their comfort zones are a different environment at time, some are good and some are bad.  I personally don’t believe anyone has bad intentions.  Most negative perceptions are really just based on a lack of knowledge about someone that we haven’t been exposed to.  I hope that you will join me!  Here anyone and everyone is welcome.  All that are different and even those that are not from a multi-racial or multi-cultural perspective.  Maybe you’re apart of a culture where you don’t look exactly like those around you.  You are lighter, or darker.  Maybe you have different hair texture of eye color and came from the same mother and father that are culturally alike.  Genes are an awesome part of who we are, and they have plenty to do with out outward appearances and even predisposed conditions.   I sometimes make the correlation I have coffee, but I just can’t bear it without cream, and raw sugar.  I look forward to a long lasting relationship of discovery and milestones together.  Thank you!


MultiRacial, MultiEthnic, MultiCultural Community! "PEOPLE" without RACE boxes.

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