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Are You Mexican?

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Good Mornoonevening World Wide Web!  Each Tuesday Evening at 9 pm EST we hold a chat on Twitter picking a unique, question, answer or topic as it relates to the people, family, friends and children who are biracial, multicultural, or multiethnic.  The topics can be anything.  I welcome you to even submit your topics at info@wecheckother.com  to open up the discussion lines.  We have a full hour on Twitter where your opinion, laughs and at times facts are welcome.  Tonight the question that will be discussed is, ” Are you Mexican?”  Join in the discussion @wecheckother on Facebook & Twitter

XOXOXO,

Others’Mother

Culture + Culture or Ethnic + Ethnic= Multicultural or Multiethnic

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Good Afternoon World Wide Web!  Yes that’s a map.  A really big one.  I’m a visual learner so I like to see  what someone is explaining to me.  It helps for a bit better understanding.  Today we’re going on a virtual voyage.  I’ll be your tour guide Others’Mother and I will offer some perspective for the conversation.  I picked this map because it will help to better understand some points.  Most of us can easily find possible issues between two races coming together in a relationship.  Once they have a child; the child is then bi-racial according to how they look physically.  What happens when two ethnic people have a relationship?  I’ve seen tendencies to assume that someone  who “looks” Asian is “Chinese” or someone who “looks” Latino is “Mexican” where in fact they may not be either.  Of course China, and Mexico are the largest countries in their regions, but their sizes is not what I would say is the reason for the lack of understanding.  Asia is huge and so it Latin America.  One part I’d like to offer & what I’ve seen in my journey is that people in Latin America, speak “Spanish” but feel very connected to the countries they are from.  Each country has their own way of using and saying words in Spanish, different preparations for food, and many more items that make them feel in fact very different and not a collective of “Hispanic” or “Latino” people.  You couple this with race and well, I couldn’t type it all in a few pages.  For simplicity, I won’t go into racial differences; I will just keep it uniform and leave that for the comments.  I just want to stick with ethnic and cultural difference.  In Asia, unlike Latin America, the languages are different even in neighboring countries, along with their food etc.  So let’s just say that someone’s mother is from Columbia, and their father is from Mexico.  They grow in a household with two parents who listen to two different types of music, prepare food differently, and so much more.  It’s the same in Asia, the middle east, Africa etc.  You can have people who have similar features on the outside, born in the same region, yet their countries are different in many ways.   A person could be Cambodian and Laotian or Japanese and Korean.  They grow up with multiple cultures, languages, & cuisine in one home yet seem to someone with just a gauge for race as just that; one race.  In fact they may have a rich heritage of multiple ethnicity or culture to share.  My rule of thumb; I ask.  Even when the carnal part of me wants to think a certain way, I force my self to ask even if I feel sure to gain clarity.  You never know; you may learn something new!  Maps ROCK!

As always, Thank you for visiting We Check Other!  I love to spark great conversation.  The comments are open to great minds to finish the conversation below!

XOXOXO,

Others’Mother

 

*Bonus (Map of Latin America)

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A Letter from a Black Mother! Dear World…

Good Afternoon World Wide Web!  I want to share a letter.  This letter could be written by any mother with some of the same questions that this letter addresses.  It will pose some major questions and spark discussion.

Dear World,

I have a few questions.  It’s one that may or may not take very long to answer depending upon your views of the world that we share.  I’m preparing my son to become a productive member of our society and I would like to know what your reaction to the love of my life will be after I add all the love, support, lessons, and self-esteem I can to him at home.   In my home he enjoys a very rich experience of having multiple languages and cultures in his everyday interactions.  After I release him to you, your views, rejection, or opinions could reverse everything that I’ve placed my life into building up.  If I listen to the news, according to his melanin content that I adore, he will be profiled and have to walk in fear of being jailed because the statistics aren’t in his favor.  I love my baby.  There is nothing that I wouldn’t do to make sure that he can have every opportunity that the world could offer him.  I’m his mother!  My son is Hispanic and Black.  I know that the statistics actually aren’t in his favor on either side.  My letter represents so many who have a relationship with someone different from themselves.  We could even imagine that my son was Black and White (Non-Hispanic)  No matter the race, the question would be similar.

My afro isn’t exactly the pillar of beauty in the Latino community.  I watch television in Spanish and I can count on one hand the number of people who look like me or my baby on the collective of their broadcasts.  I fear for him because the love that he feels here at home could cause him to walk blindly into a place where he would not feel accepted.  That’s an issue for me.  When he looks at his father, who provides an un-bias love to him, I’m often reminded that everyone will not be so nice.

On the other hand, in the Black Community everyone with an ounce of black is accepted.  To be honest, in my community, once his or her hair follicle is opened and his or her skin is lightened, he becomes even more accepted.  I would go as far as to say, he becomes even more popular in my community because he or she is now, “light-skinned black”  I’ll admit this is something that if you aren’t apart of this group it may not be of importance to you.  It’s one that my race will continue to work on as time continues on.  So let me ask.

Does my son now forget his father because I’m a black woman?  As I prepare my son to be a “black” man, I often try and expect what you will reverse.   How do I protect my baby from the racism in the Latino community?  How do I prepare my son for the racism in America?  How do I help him properly nurture all of his identity?

A concerned “Black” Mother who Checks “Other” for her child

 

So there you have it.  Let me know what you think.  Thanks for stopping by.

Until the next,

Others’Mother