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“I AM” Who I Say I AM!!!

stereotypesGreatest Afternoon World Wide Web!  Today is a beautifully blessed DAY!  Today We are ALL closer to perfection than we were yesterday!  I want to begin by acknowledging that I am not perfect at this!  I fight daily bias, and racism inside of my journey just to try to effectively address the subject of mixed races, cultures and ethnicities.  Because I dare to cross the line into other cultural worlds for better understanding; what I find more times than not is a force of opposition.  Collective people and bias who have seen the news, or heard from one person who told another a racial stereotype.  Then I pay in their minds for the entire black race.  I’ve been known before maturing to not go down without a fight.  Anyone who truly knows me, knows that I am passionate about “black” racial issues and sensitive to all issues of race, racism, ethnicities and culture.   I’d come out with facts and great argument in opposition of bias to “defend” the negative connotations of my race and culture or even that of others.  But…to no avail, the next time they see me; it’s the same issue over again, only this time, they’ve got a different stereotype or bias to throw out there.  I’m coming to understand this is the climate of human kind.  We watch nationally syndicated shows that have a view, and they invite one poor little soul with an opposing view and verbally tear them apart.  This is today’s news and overall environment.  I love the people who say,”Why do you care what others think?”  or “I’m a complete being no one’s outside views bother me.”  We are all STILL on the playground.  All of us still want to be the coolest, most fashionable, highly sought after prom king or queen.  Our playgrounds now are mainstream media and social networking is all.  We are ALL influenced by our environments. The question then only becomes how to process the racism and bias.  What other ways do we have to live and channel to support a healthy emotional state when EVERYONE has an opinion.  TOO MANY are just hateful and cruel.  Just yesterday, a “friend” of my husband’s placed a posting on my husband’s page.  My husband purchased a motorcycle.  This “friend” found a picture of a very unattractive over weight  “black” woman with a two piece bathing suit and a blonde weave placed sideways on her head and posted it to my husband’s face book page.  I’m  truly just now processing the emotions.  I’ve fought back emotions for two days.   This guy is Latino, and his wife is white American, which is one of the reasons why they could be viewed as a worthy couple two engage with and our children expose themselves to.  It has been totally contrary.  Most of the time, when we’ve been in their company, the conversations always find themselves steering to my children’s skin colors and hair textures.  My children have two different skin tones and hair textures.   This “friend” has also gotten both myself and his wife in a room and boastfully voiced what he “thinks”  about Americans both black and white.  Of course he enforces that he thinks “I’m not an American” and his wife is.  This was another confirmation for me that being “black” and Latino was an issue as well.  I’ve heard often from Mestizo Latino and other tri-racial ethnic mixes the reference to Black Latino as not Latino.   It’s actually interesting, relative and parallel to some of the same racial dynamics in the USA and all over the world.  This isn’t the first or the 100th time that I’ve had to withstand the brunt end of  such ignorance.  I’ve often considered that this “friend” being an “undocumented” Latino immigrant influences his opinion.  It could be that, or it just could be his lack of true understanding for this country and the history of the culture and dynamics.  I’ve even leaned towards him having only “T.V.” education which is just all together bad.   There is a comment in Spanish that states, “por uno paga todos” which simply translates to, “Everyone pays for one.”  It’s amazing how a person’s interactions, or understanding of one person or incident can completely shape what and how they perceive an entire race, culture, or ethnicity of people.  I can’t guarantee you that I don’t slip into the wanting of completely withdrawing myself, or even utter dislike.  I’m growing.   I am also mature enough to understand that one person’s words or actions can not speak for an entire group.  This is one of the biggest reasons that I have decided to start this project.  There are too many misconceptions, stereotypes, bias and racism. Bringing attention to some of them and engaging in a fact based dialogue to reverse the 16th century studies of socialism can really be a leap in understanding.  As long as we stand in the ways of old;  checking one box, and segregating ourselves; change will never come to us or our children.

 

 

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XOXOXO!,

Others’Mother

 

Black, White, Other

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Good Evening World Wide Web!  Today is the greatest day!  We are closer to perfection than we were yesterday!  I’m going to begin by saying, “Happy Groundhog Day!”  Punxsutanwney Phil didn’t see his shadow.  Pennsylvania’s most famous groundhog has forecast an early spring.  Ok..so for anyone unfamiliar, there is a legend in the United States that if this furry rodent, or groundhog sees his shadow in a place called Gobblers Knob in Pennsylvania, winter will last 6 more weeks.  If he doesn’t then spring will come earlier.  There’s a ceremony and all conducted by the “Inner Circle.”  Well today, cameras rolling, and no shadow.  My flowers are ready!  I come offering a great read.  The book “Black, White, Other” has gotten some good reviews.    Enjoy!

 

“Some OTHER RACE”

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Great Evening World Wide Web.  Today is a great day!  We are all closer to perfection than we were yesterday.   As I searched the internet to find the real measure of how our Department of Commerce, Bureau of the Census tracks our human population, I wanted to make sure that I could offer an actual example.  I want to begin by drawing your attention to question #8 that leads into #9.  This is important because Hispanics or Latinos are the nations largest minority group and growing.   I realize how important it may be to keep up with these growing statistics, but most people don’t.  I’ve heard, well, I’m not “Black” I’m African-American or vice versa.   There are Latinos who don’t know their race or races, if you ask them “What is your race?” They will proudly tell you Latino.  As I’ve reiterated, this is a cultural classification.  The problem is, MOST Latinos are “Mixed” or OTHER.  I would go as far as to say PLENTY of African-Americans or Blacks are also, but because of the history of this country, that dialogue is far off.    The thought processes behind the ideals that created and maintained the idea of racial segregation is why the Ethnicities are skewing the stats.  Here’s how I would answer these questions.   My children would check the box that say “OTHER” Latino origin,  Black, and American Indian.  That’s three boxes!!!  Alternatively, I may just CHECK THE BOX that says “SOME OTHER RACE” attempting to show my children are a mixture. A New Creation. Then I could attempt to explain by saying something like BLACK and LATINO or Blaxureno.  That’s a real head scratcher.  The problem with that answer is that one is a RACE and the OTHER is a culture.  My children are CULTURALLY AMERICAN.  I am an American, my mother, grandmother, and great-grandmother on both maternal and paternal sides were all born right here in America.  I married an immigrant, in the land of immigrants.  This is a growing dynamic in America.   Is melanin the issue? Precious cancer fighting, sun protecting melanin. (another blog)  What a way to skew some stats!  This is a sensitive yet important issue that we must work on….together.  This is a small lesson on how items are offered through our government.  You see, the results of these federal forms are used to decide civil rights laws, funding, & even redistricting of congressional districts.  Is it the form’s problem or do we need to add more boxes?  Will it stop the mixtures?  I really don’t think so unless we enact some older laws from the 1960s and 70s.   The problem is who I’m trying to tell you I am doesn’t fit our typical understanding anymore.   For this very reason the US Census Bureau is working to change some of the questions that we now use to track our current racial demographics.  Read more at the link below.

http://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2012/08/07/census-bureau-considers-changing-its-racehispanic-questions/

Is the answer to add more questions?  Is it just LATINOS who check other?  What about the people who prefer one racial name for a classification over another?  Could it be that PEOPLE have changed and don’t fit into our BLACK, WHITE, ASIAN rules?  Science says this is the base of all ethnicities and race.  Could it be race is completely evolving?  The “concept” that doesn’t exist, but we’ve all come to understand as our realities around the globe?  What do you think?  I would love to hear from you.  Share any comments or answers to these questions that you’d like.

As always, I appreciate your time.  I’d like to thank you for stopping by.  Please show your support by finding my Facebook and Twitter page @wecheckother.  LIKE the page to show your support.  I’m always looking for guest bloggers and people willing to share their stories.  Please contact me at wecheckother@yahoo.com.  Until the Next!

XOXOXO,

Others’Mother

I’ll Create My Own Identity!

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Great Evening World Wide Web!  Today is a wonderful day.  We are closer to perfection today than we were yesterday.  On this very first Sunday in 2013 I want to blog about a subject that I think most people who are of multiple races, ethnicities & cultures have heard.  I wouldn’t say it’s right or wrong.  I think personally that it is all about the “user” and how comfortable they feel in creating their own personal identity.  I’m sure there are many feelings on how this subject should be approached.   I think all identity is personal even if you identify with a singular box.  I realize that it really doesn’t begin to touch the issues that so many of the people who are “mixed” heritiage or couples in interracial or intercultural relationships have to deal with, but again these are a personal choice.    We’ve all heard these terms or similar ones: blaxican, blasian, blatino, blacknamese, blacklaos, blackapino, Caurean, Casian, ChexMex, Chigro, Filitina, Japorican, Mexipino, and the list goes on and on.  The attempt to find a box for a child of direct “mixed” heritage, where a new name is created.   Could you imagine a census with soooo many choices?  I think the boxes would be the entire questionnaire.  I’m not trying in any way to make light of the subject, but I am trying to make a point.  Maybe there will never be a way to identify all the beautiful uniqueness that humanity has created.  I do think however that the simple box OTHER will began to let that light shine.  I know that OTHER is one box, but it’s the hippest, most inclusive, colorful box in the list.   Atleast that’s what I tell my two beautiful kids.  They have friends and loved ones who identify with just one and have pride in one.  My 5 year old has even began to be pitched into why she is just “one” race based on her melanin content.  (That’s another blog)   It simply means that you have the priviledge to explain instead of just robotically checking a box.  It’s kinking the “norm” to the curb, and redifining the integrations of LOVE and the beginning of understanding what is unique.  OTHER!  WE CHEK OTHER.  If you hadn’t become fully aqauinted with the idea of wecheckother.com,  I really hope this begins to explain why this blog is here.  I’m excited to hear from you and look forward to learning together.  Let me know what you think.  How should “mixed” race, culture and ethnicities identify themselves?  Until til the next.

XOXOXO,

Others’Mother

Happy New Year from WE CHECK OTHER!

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Happy New Year World Wide Web!  2013!  I would like to begin by extending a personal invite for each of the members, subscrbers, and viewers to follow on facebook, and twitter:  @wecheckother.   New content for this brand new year is on the way.

I look forward to working with and interacting with each of you in the future!  I forward blessings and prosperity through the World Wide Web  to each of you in this upcoming year ahead of us all!  Cheers to learning, growing, sharing, giving, loving, living, life, and happiness!

XOXOXO,

Others’Mother

 

The Story of 2 Thanksgivings!!!

Good Morning World Wide Web!  Today is an OTHER day!  We are closer to perfection than we were yesterday.  I want to begin by welcoming you to the best community on the web.  A community where we can come together share, learn and laugh about an experience that is new to us.  One that is challenging yet rewarding.  If you are visiting and you are outside of the United States and visiting, this post will be geared towards a recent holiday celebrated in the USA called Thanksgiving.  Here is a little paragraph history.  If you’re familiar you can skip over the paragraph.

In September 1620 a ship called the Mayflower left Plymouth England with 102 passengers–an assortment of religious separates seeking a new home lured by the promise of prosperity and the freedom to openly practice their faith in the “New World”  They dropped anchor near the tip of Cape Cod, eventually passing the Massachusetts Bay where the “Pilgrims” as we now know them today settled establishing the Village at Plymouth.  Only half of the plagued settlers survived the trip and brutal winter season.  In March of the following year the remaining settlers moved to shore and were met by an Abenaki Indian who greeted the settlers in English.  Several days later he returned with another “Native” American Squanto, a member of the Pawtuxet tribe who had been captured the an English sea-captain, sold into slavery before escaping to London and returning to his homeland on an expository expedition.  This beautiful, forgiving soul Squanto taught the settlers (Pilgrims) weakened by illness and malnutrition how to cultivate corn, extract maple syrup, catch fish in the rivers, and avoid poisonous plants.  He helped the settlers forge an alliance with the Wampanoag, a local tribe, which endured more than 50 years and TRAGICALLY remain ONE of the SOLE examples of harmony between Native Americans and European Settlers.  In November 1621 the corn harvest was successful.  Governor William Bradford organized a celebratory feast and invited a group of the colony’s Native American allies, including the Wampanoag chief Massasoit.  The festival lasted 3 days, and is now known as what is celebrated today in the USA each years as “Thanksgiving.”

-History Channel

Every third Thursday in the month of November, Thanksgiving is celebrated with family and loved ones by coming together and having a humongous feast of all the delectable foods that one can imagine.  It’s not always the pillar of health in homes, but the food is super yummy!  The tale of 2 Thanksgivings is two separate experiences.  My story:  This year my husband and I went to my family’s house.  My older sister cooked a beautiful meal and we spent the day eating, talking and catching up. I had my brother, mother, uncles, cousins, in-laws, friends and a few family friends present.  There was turkey, ham, mashed potatoes, green beans, potato salad, candied yams, beans, pies, cakes, collard greens, and I’m sure I forgot some things but you get the picture.  For me it was such a wonderful experience.   I was in one of the most comfortable places possible.  I looked in a corner on the couch as I’m talking, smiling & laughing at my husband who was glued to the football game and hadn’t really said much to anyone.  My mind is thinking, “Is he uncomfortable?”  “Did someone say something to him?”  I walk over with my extremely loving, very supportive sister to ask was he okay or can I get him something?  I just really wanted to see him enjoying this celebratory time just as I was.  For this very reason, I have to be honest in saying that I have neglected going home to my family to “keep him comfortable” in the past.  After all, I speak Spanish and I am familiar with his culture where I have to integrate myself.  We live closer to people within his culture and family where we share a great majority of our time and holidays.  I enjoyed the entire day.   I was happy that I was with my family, but a little distracted by the fact that I can see my husband is completely outside of his comfort zone and it showed.  At about 11:30 I kissed all of my family and pulled off with my husband and children to go back home.

The next day we decided to go over to a close friend of my husband’s house to continue the celebration.  Around 6 we loaded up.  My husband’s best friend, his child and mother, my husband’s other friends were all present.  There was tamales, arroz con pollo, salchicha, pan.  These are Latin American dishes.  In Latin America there is not a celebration of Thanksgiving, but the people who live in the United States celebrate with the dishes that they feel most comfortable with.  I saw the shell bust open.  My husband was mingling, talking, eating, laughing and sharing.  I’m doing so as well.  I have to admit, I didn’t know whether to be upset with him or happy for him.  He was a totally different person from the day before.  He was in the place where he felt most comfortable.  I’ve endured some not so nice comments over the years.  In this feast, of course the typical, only American in the room, I’m paying for all the sins of the American White Race and Black Race combined.  This is something that I have become accustomed to tuning out and times, but there have been other seriously rude interactions where I haven’t been so quiet.  This was one of them.  I’m listening to the great beauty of Central America, and how it triumphs that of America; how the food is better, the culture is better, the kids are better quality, my daughters straightened hair is so beautiful, and a myriad of all the other bias in this EPIC FAIL of an attempt to try to communicate with me and I guess make me comfortable.  I’m completely convinced that it is the opposite.   At times I wish I hadn’t learned Spanish so I could sit quietly in a corner and they wouldn’t talk to me.  I could eat and imagine a world where racism, ignorance, and bias didn’t exist.   By the last comment, my top was about to blow and I just said, “I don’t want to hear this”  I’m almost ready to just scream at  my husband, because of his happiness I’m miserable.  I missed my family!  Once everyone seen that I had come to my point of this is enough, they started to explain.  I of course wanted to go into a full course of explaining to them a history of race and culture, but I knew I would be wasting my breath so, I left that part of my answering out.  I finished out the night, eating and calming my frustrations.  At the end of the night, we loaded up and went home.

As a member of a multiracial and multicultural family, I have to say that this is one of the more difficult parts of existing beside having children that don’t fit in one box in our social classification of hierarchy.  We both were forced outside of our comfort zones to attempt to make each other happy, but ultimately ended up sad ourselves.  I imagine that this is one of the biggest obstacles for so many others and this is one of the many reasons I’m creating this page and community.  To share, learn, unite and succeed at being married and having children with someone who is different in any way from you.  Tell me what your Thanksgiving story was like.  I would love to hear your reaction or anything that you would want to share.  Thank you for tuning in.  Until the next time.

XOXOXO,

Others’Mother

 

Secede or Not Secede? This is Amazing!

 

Good Afternoon World Wide Web!  Today is an OTHER day!  We are closer to perfection than we were yesterday.  Today I just want to touch on the letter above.  It is a letter that is discussing all of items willing to be given up by some 100,000 plus signatures that have been obtained from the state of Texas and throughout to secede from the United States.   This of course isn’t the actual letter, but you get an idea of EVERYTHING that anger and hatred is brewing up.  This OUT CRY of racial hatred is the result of President Barack Obama being re-elected by Electoral College Vote and Popular Vote.  The people of the United States spoke. Right?  It doesn’t seem like it.  Look at the where the signatures  that have been received throughout the United States are coming from…and counting.

  1. Alabama 28,576
  2. Alaska 7,153 and 3,038
  3. Arizona 21,125
  4. Arkansas 21,315
  5. California 13.277
  6. Colorado 20,302
  7. Connecticut 2,512
  8. Delaware 7,078
  9. Florida 32,265
  10. Georgia 30,054 and 11,740 and 7,230
  11. Hawaii 3,059
  12. Idaho 5,334
  13. Illinois 4,285 and 4,457
  14. Indiana 19,566
  15. Iowa 3,955
  16. Kansas 7,696
  17. Kentucky 17,447
  18. Louisiana 35,133
  19. Maine 3,336
  20. Maryland 2,724
  21. Massachusetts 3,043
  22. Michigan 18,024
  23. Minnesota 4,646
  24. Mississippi 17,146
  25. Missouri 18,434 and 13,060
  26. Montana 12,562
  27. Nebraska 6,489
  28. Nevada 9,543
  29. New Hampshire 4,779
  30. New Jersey 13,255
  31. New Mexico 4,211
  32. New York 14,101 and 7,686
  33. North Carolina 28,388
  34. North Dakota 10,822
  35. Ohio 10,585 and 7,774 and 2,865
  36. Oklahoma 16,806 and 8,682
  37. Oregon 13,765
  38. Pennsylvania 12,396 and 8,003
  39. Rhode Island 4,043
  40. South Carolina 22,313 and 13,158
  41. South Dakota 14,295 and 5,831
  42. Tennessee 29,050
  43. Texas 111,208
  44. Utah 7,543 and 6,025
  45. Vermont 622
  46. Virginia 4,261 and 7,576
  47. Washington 3,469 and 2,597
  48. West Virginia 6,925
  49. Wisconsin 6,046
  50. Wyoming 8,21

—-Examiner.com

What does this mean for an increasing climate of tense race relations in the United States of America?  What does this mean for the children of “mixed” couples in this country?  Does anyone have a story that they would like to share?  I would love to hear from you.  Comment and be sure to find me on Facebook and Twitter!  We can continue the conversation in the forum located at the top of the discussion column.   Until the next!  Stay encouraged.  A community is coming where color isn’t an issue.  We’re building one person at a time!

XOXOXOXO,

Others’Mother

 

 

 

The RACE of Trees! Fall Inspiration: Defining RACE!

Good Sunday Afternoon!  Today is an OTHER day!   Today we are closer to perfection than we were yesterday.   Today I’m sitting outside looking at Carolina Blue skies, and trees, that are green, yellow, red; all hues and everything in between.  How majestic.  It’s amazing how just sitting outside on a beautiful day, and all the colors are just so uplifting. With keeping with all that wecheckother will represent, today  I want to talk about race.  I feel that many people don’t understand why some people’s approach to race has been so counterproductive.  To begin RACE is a BIOLOGICAL term.  Race actually does not exist .  There are only species.   All the beauty in the US and the trees changing color is a gift.  One from nature that looks beyond the barriers of color and realizes that in chorus color is life changing.   We are still talking about the species of TREES!  There are so many different types of tree, but in the season of fall here in the US, they all turn hundreds of different colors.  This is an adaptation to this environment perhaps.  In the winter, here in America, almost all trees lose all of their leaves.  Maybe this gift was given to the U.S., because the DIVINE creator of all things knew that the people here would need to understand it most.  To be of nature and in nature are two different things as well.  I heard someone once say species stick with their kind.  Well KIND is a species not a RACE.  We are the HUMAN KIND: A species! In nature, two trees of the same species can turn two different colors.  It doesn’t change the tree’s kind at all.   Plant nurseries know this and combine roots of different colored plants to manipulate colors and create beautiful bouquets.   Extremist believe it or not have battled with the very notion over the decades of skin color equalling  a different species.  It’s like saying if two trees of the same species start out green in the summer and turn two different colors in the fall, then they are no longer of the same species.  That is false.   RACE is in Biology, a population of species differing geographically or genetically from other populations of THE SAME SPECIES.   Science KNOWS that race is not applicable to people because the division of humans into discrete types does not represent the true nature of the human biological variation.  Race has become nothing more than an important social class.  European scholars began their systematic study of worldwide human variation in the 18th century.  It ultimately created a hierarchy of the human kind into “better types” of humans.   The most notable that I found was that of German physician Johann Blumenbach (1752-1840)  Blumenbach concluded that all “light-skinned” people in Europe and adjacent pasts of western Asia and northern Africa belonged to the same race.  With this, he dropped the “European” race label and replaced it with “caucasian”  Ok.  So I am going to STOP here.  For the first time in my life even I noted that ASIAN is incorporated into this word.  Here is what Wikipedia gave me when I dug deeper.

The term Caucasian race (also CaucasoidEuropid, or Europoid)[1] has been used to denote the general physical type of some or all of the populations of EuropeNorth Africa, the Horn of AfricaWestern Asia,parts of Central Asia and South Asia.[2] Historically, the term has been used to describe many peoples from these regions, without regard necessarily to skin tone.[3]

That’s 3 continents that science supporting race says are the origins.  If race were true, then  White, Black, and Asian would be  the geographic origin of all the ethnicities we know today.   I have to resist my urge to want to teach, but honestly I have to allow my flesh to stand down for better understanding.  The only thing that you can stand on and ever be understood is the facts.  You give the knowledge and allow everyone to come to their own conclusions.

Although he continued to distinguish American Indians as a separate race, he regrouped dark-skinned Africans as “Ethiopian” and split those Asians not considered CAUC-ASIAN into two separate races: Mongolian (referring to most inhabitants of Asia, including China and Japan) and “Malay” (indigenous Australians, Pacific Islanders and OTHERS)  Yes OTHER existed in the beginning.  It more over supports that racial purity is rare, yet the movement forged forward to breed racial separation and hatred and we’ve come to know and understand today.

This physician was convinced that Caucasians were closest to the ideal original humans supposedly created in GOD’s image.  In vanity be basically noted the symmetry of the skulls, and the “pretty features.”   He then ranked them as the supreme human being.  He noted that all other races were the result of degeneration, by moving away from their place of origin and adapting to different environments and climates had degenerated them both physically and morally.    In other words, this scholar was saying that different race is only the result of adaptation to different environments.  It’s hard to believe that this study and countless others of this kind saturated Europe and were brought to a brand new America to found the nation.  How can you fix a house where the foundation was built improperly?  A painter built the hundred story building, when THE ARCHITECT & ENGINEER were  needed.  To compound this, there were test created that supported this theory that were completely bias, and honestly apart of a school system that failed so many.  This is RACE, and how it was born.  How it came to be.  Why classification into a box is so important.  It’s really to see where and how you fit into the social hierarchy.  Thanks for stopping by.  Until the next.  Let me know what you think.  I’d love to hear from you or just any exciting ideas or brainstorms you’d like to share about celebrating the people who have moved beyond these barriers to find and define the universal LOVE.

 

XOXOXO,

Others’Mother

 

 

Information from:

-Lwwontin, R.C. (1972) The appointment of human Diversity

-T. Dobzhansky et al. (eds) Evolutionary biology New York

-Shreeve, J. (1994) Terms of Estrangement

Race, Ethnicity & Our Census

Good Afternoon World Wide Web!  Today is an OTHER day!  We are closer to perfection today, than we were yesterday. WE CHECK OTHER is here to bring attention to mixed race children coming out of outdated boxes, to educate you when possible, and eventually lead up to a real discussion about race and cultural relations in the US and around the world.  I want to begin by acknowledging that I realize this idea has many facets.  There are social class items and minority relationships that have to be considered.    I have to admit that among some of even the same people who check the singular box that I check seem to think that I am betraying the “black” race with my project.  That I am not proud of my “African” heritage.  I think most of our subcultures are guilty of extremism.  I’ve seen it in every culture that I’ve had the opportunity to be exposed to.  We don’t have race problems; we have people problems.  Stereotypes and bias are road blocks.  Can we truly move forward as a nation focusing on the past?  I’m reminded of a couple that makes it 60 or 70 years together.  By this time they’ve either grown bitter or they’ve learned to take the present as the most valuable asset that they own.  We are in the present everyday.  There’s no one who can go back and change our past.  If there is, I want to meet them, only to marvel at them, but not to change a single solitary thing.  Most of us know our tests make us who we become and our resilience exemplifies our talents.  An opposite side mentality of standing your ground will not work.   The notion of standing on your side of the line and daring someone to cross it and refusing to never cross yourself.   This mentality will lay into the other side (racially) all of what you think about them, and attempt to change their mindset by forcefully displaying your own.  If you’ve ever been the only person of your racial classification in the room with a group of people of another who unsuccessfully try to relate but fail you know what I mean.  The bias, things that they like and don’t like about your race can sometimes come out in a failed attempt to relate to you.  There isn’t one race or culture that is guilty of this.   Racism is a problem in all colors of the rainbow because of the many years of forced separation, and frankly ignorance about the other side.  It’s the person who calls all Latinos Mexican, or all Asians Chinese.   A person who has never had someone at the dinner table who doesn’t a least resemble them has an extremely long way to go before grasping this concept or any other.  That problem doesn’t have a race tag on it.  Those people are only left to draw a conclusion from what main stream media gives them.       I want to share with you two articles in the NY Times that I thought you might find interesting.

NY Times Talking!!

NY Times Build Your Own Family Tree

In the late 1800’s the census included spaces for  1/4th black and 1/8th black.  There was even at points a  place for people to check mulatto with any percentile of black. The most common choices in that time were White, Black, Chinese, (the category to include all Asians) and American Indian.  That’s it.  Of course these marks were all in a turbulent time of America, where the grounds to stand on weren’t very equal.  We haven’t moved much further except for OTHER.  I would say it’s an acknowledgement that we realize that there are mixes that are going beyond our boxes but we don’t know how to describe them.  Even the boxes from the early 1800s acknowledge mixing with some of their choices, but again it was dismissed.  The “which one” are you tendency has become apart of the American culture that is deeply embed.

Someone might choose to ask me, why did you choose the name “We Check Other?” Aren’t you talking about your children?  I would reply yes,  I am talking about my children and the children of millions of other Americans and people around the world.   I’m not looking for a platform to just marvel over the “cuteness” of mixed children.  Although that is a perk, I really want to lay a true dialogue on the table.  America as we know it has changed and the more I research and look around, I see people from all walks of life trying to facilitate the conversation and brainstorm on how to move forward.  This yellow brick road will lead to DNA testing I feel.  Maybe then we can resolve some of the medical issues that puzzle us all.    Right now I CHECK OTHER for my children.  To me, the demographics themselves can’t seem to figure out the difference between race, culture, and ethnicity.  People are checking Ethnicity for race.  An Ethnicity is a group of people who collectively identify themselves as a distinct group based on various CULTURAL features such as SHARED LANGUAGE, CUSTOMS, & TRADITIONAL BELIEFS.  This has no mention of color.   I never realized this myself until I married a man who is ethnically Latino. I noticed that everyone knew the color spectrum but collectively they share pride in their ETHNIC heritage, just as American’s do.  The problem is that RACISM within their ethnicity still exists as it does in several cultures around the world.  Most commonly we equate a race to skin color, with hair texture running in a close 2nd.  Melanin is responsible for our skin tones.  Melanin ( Greek work Melas meaning BLACK) is the chemical responsible for dark pigmentation that helps protect against damage from ultraviolet radiation.  Melanin production is increased when exposed to the sun causing the skin color to deepen.  For this very reason people of darker skin are less likely to get sunburn or skin cancer than those with less melanin.  Who would have ever thought that divine creation would have created the skin to protect itself.  Popular culture makes it as though this is a curse.  I’ve always thought that the answer to some of our most puzzling medical questions are somewhere in the middle of all of us.  The place where we meet and cross.  That’s another blog post!    I’ve checked the box for BLACK my entire life and I gave birth to two children that are on 2 totally different sides of the color spectrum.  Their hair textures are even different.  There are so many really smart people scientific facts that go into explaining how and why this happens.  Unfortunately, if I go into learning and explaining the specifics I will have to charge tuition.  I’ll leave you there.  Until the next!

XOXOXO,

OthersMother

 

Back to Business! Our President Checks Other!

 

 

Map of Interracial Law Prohibition in the US.

Good Morning World Wide Web.  Today is a beautiful day.  We are closer to perfection today than we were yesterday.  Today we are getting back to business.  Meeting the need for our fellow human beings.  We meet that need by attempting to resolve the issues that could potentially make the world a better place for us all.  The vehicle has to be driven by passion.  That of diversity, education, and equality is what I carry in my soul.  Let’s take a drive! We check other is birthed from my passion as a mother of biracial children, from different cultural backgrounds, to draw attention to a reality that decided the Presidential Race.  Diversity.  Our nation is diversifying.  Yet the ideals of the past are still haunting us.  Interracial Marriage was prohibited by law until the 1970’s in most of the states in the U.S.A,    particularly the southern states that were represented in the confederacy.  Take a look at the election map and compare to the map above.

 

The voting trends can even be predicted from an old map of America based on the demographics.  It was right on point.  It almost looks like the maps are describing the same subjects.

“Change will not come if we wait for some other or some other time.  We are the one’s we’ve been waiting for.  We are the change that we seek” ~Barack Obama 44th President of the United States.

We are one day post Election Day in America.  Barack Obama was re-elected as the president of the United States.  This of course will make some inside and outside of this country both happy and sad.   A year of campaigning and countless ads by both parties to illustrate their stand on the issues that they felt most passionate about.  What we saw was a wounded America.  One that has not healed from past racial tensions, and an attachment to founding ideals of a superior race.  One that would like to have segregation and the financial élite remain the sole heirs to the thrones of victory.  There is healing to do on both sides.  Wouldn’t it take a man who can meet you in the middle to get there?  Well America spoke up last night and said “YES WE CAN.”   Barack Obama is bi-racial.  No matter how you look at it, whether you call him black, or see him as black, he still loves a mother that the United States considers a white woman.  He love grandparents that the United States consider white.  I’ve heard some accuse him of racial hatred, but how could it be so?  He loved and was nurtured by someone who looks different from him.  He can’t be accepted by their race, because of barriers.  For a Harvard educated man, I would conclude that it would make him want to learn more about the barriers and attempt to mend them.  His loved ones are on the other side.  He has a black America, that of course has accepted him with open arms.  In somewhat of a vain society he looks like the census.    I am a student of my studies!  I am always learning.  I am not perfect, but everyday I am getting closer.  We all are.  We check other is looking through my children’s eyes at the world around them.  Eyes that a child like President Barack Obama saw through.   My children love meatloaf and carne asada.  Why should our world continue to go in a direction that is not forward?  I understand the principles of the founders of America as do many of its citizens.   Checking Other opens a door, to explain that we have met at the barriers of our differences and found love.  We continue to create with the hope that it can make a difference in our world and the ones around us.  People have to deal first with what they can actually see.  What we see and have to admit, is that according to where you live, you see people who look different coming together and sharing their lives together.  One day, my vision for wecheckother.com is a community.  A community for everything from sharing recipes from diverse backgrounds to having diverse meet and greets.  Thank you for tuning in.  Please let me know of any feedback or great new ideas you have.  I’d love to hear from you.

XOXOXO,

OthersMother