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You’re NOT Black, White or Mixed Enough!!!

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Greatest Afternoon World Wide Web.  “Today is a GREAT day!  We are all closer to perfection today than we were yesterday!” -Marjorie Molina.  Today as the Carolina Blue Skies shower me with beautiful inspiration, I want to speak to you from my heart.  I own a multi-faceted vision.  My heart beats faster and my being becomes engaged while learning and participating in any conversation or function that encompasses race, culture, ethnicity, identity & diversity.  Honestly, the question that has been posed to me in my travels the most is, “You’re a black woman, why do you care about diversity?”  Really? It doesn’t help that I’m multi-lingual and I’m married to a Latino.  I’ve been written off as a “wanna-be” or not owning my “black.”  I seriously thought about calling L.L. Cool J.  We should collaborate.  I get it.  (I truly plan to) Chris Rock  gave his movie, “Good Hair”  So many have introduced this issue, that has soooo many levels.   I’ve had a few people say they were going to take my “black card”  I’m not “black enough.”  “Black Enough?”  Should I snap and roll my neck, speak improperly?  Maybe that would make you like me.  I should submit to stereotypes and help facilitate the progression of wounded social norms.  But the meat and potatoes is, “You’re NOT multiracial”  But…My children are.   My soul is wrapped around my two children.  I breathe to love them, and create a future for them that will allow their integration as productive adults into our society.  That has been my job since I gave birth and it will be my job until the day that I retire.  I see a gap in our current beliefs and understanding that leaves room for my children and children and adults like them to have questions about their identities. I am seeking to fill that gap.  Recently, in a conversation I had someone tell me I was promoting racial assimilation.  That I’m trying to “whitten the race.”  I could just let my children say they’re black, besides, the one drop rule would apply to make it true.    I could just call them “black” and let them have the privilege of being lighter skinned, and having “good hair.”  Here’s what I understand about multi-racial, cultural and ethnic identity.  It’s not about being “let into a club”  Can I check your box?  It’s not about that at all.  Instead it’s about, I’ve grown up in a house with two people who look differently, believe differently,  share different cultures etc, and personally, I don’t want either of “your boxes.”  I am a unique individual beyond the threshold of your post 1776 German doctor views.”  This is what I get most times I meet someone who is “mixed”  There are some who say, “I am mixed”, “I really don’t know how to answer that question” or they solely identify with one over the other.”

The German medical scientist Johann Blumenbach, whose 1776 book, “On the Natural Varieties of Mankind,” established the five-race model we know  today: “Caucasian, Mongolian (Asian), Malay (Pacific Islanders), American Indian and Negro.”

Their parents go through hell trying to exist in a world of turmoil and petty quarrels over their varying existences together. The movements of interracial acceptance didn’t began in the U.S. until the 1960’s and trickled to a post confederate south that never truly opened up to the understanding until later in the 1970’s.    Imagine that it wasn’t until the year 2000 that people of mixed race were able to check more than one box on the U.S. Census.

I am a Mother!  I was born to change my future, my children’s & anywhere that my arms can reach.  I know that’s what I was born to do.

Thank you so much for tuning in.  As always if you would like to reach me; my email is always open.  I’m always looking to connect with like minds.  email me at DiverCityInc@hotmail.com.  I’m on Twitter @MarjorieIam  @wecheckother.   Make your day GREAT!

XOXOXO,

Others’Mother

Pride, Prejudice, and Egocentrism

 

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Greatest Evening World Wide Web!  Today is a wonderful day!  We are closer to perfection than we were yesterday.  The words that are coming from my fingers have been inside my mind for some time.  I didn’t really know how to speak on the subject without seeming like I would offend anyone.  Then I realized the very existing of children that are mixed offends some people so I won’t make everyone happy.  Well…here it goes.

Pride, Prejudice and Egocentrism.  Once I learned another language and interacted with people outside of my cultural comfort zone I started to see the world that I lived in from the outside in.  I see black differently.  I think at the same time I started to see all people and culture differently. Ladies. Have you ever walked into a nail salon with Asian employees and asked the employee to maybe change your nail polish like three times? Gentlemen. Maybe you’ve gone into a business where you’ve made a similar petition.  You can tell they are upset, and they immediately convert to speak to the person beside them in their native language.  What if it was a racial slur?  What if it was a comment that if it were in English would be illegal and enforceable by law?  Have you ever gone into an Authentic Latino, African, Middle Eastern or any other restaurant or business and right in front of you, the person started to speak in their native language?  Do you assume?  Take your business elsewhere?  Now let’s switch the scenario.  A person whose nationality is from a country outside of the USA comes into a business that is owned by an US Citizen of US Nationality.  The client upsets them  and the owner or employee says in English a derogatory comment about a protected status; race, color, religion, national origin etc.  Would it be fair to say that just because this is America and the national language is English that this is now a CRIME?  Why wouldn’t it be the reverse?  I’m not saying that we need a translator in every business where someone is speaking another language, but there should be a common ground.  I’m not saying now that people can not practice their languages of their heritage in their homes either.  What does this mean?

I am raising children that check OTHER.  They are of Latino and African-American descent.  That is two ethnicities; Latino and African American, marrying themselves IN the beautiful United States of America.  This is of course multiple races.  (Latino/Spanish is NOT a RACE; it’s an ethnicity/culture)  It’s also the largest classification other than color on the Census, assuming that everyone is an American and understanding that the country is filled with immigrants from all over the world.   Here is where my question gets sticky.  Flags, language, cultural shift etc.  I am an American and I speak, read and write Spanish as a 2nd language.  I want my children to be proud of both of their heritages.  I want them to appreciate America, immigration, and understand the WHY in all of their future questions.  Opportunity is what called most immigrants to the United States.  Teaching them about racism is important.  This is a real issue in our world.  Children of multiple races and ethnicities are perfect, little ambassadors to bridge a racial conversation that is long overdue.  My children are bilingual; learned at home.  They speak and understand BOTH languages well.    Being bilingual is important.  All too often, I’ve heard people tell me, you should speak only SPANISH in your home and let “the teachers at school” teach your child English. ” They will learn fast, my children did.”  Is that the teacher’s responsibility?  In an already stressed economy where poor teachers are loosing their jobs based on performance, and plagued by variables such as language being one that are beyond their control.   I just feel that this subject can be explored more.  The refusal to learn English by some.  Is this Egocentrism.  The expectation of a translator?  The demand that laws are enforced when they are broken in English only?   How far does this go?   Realizing that as an African-American it’s NOT normal in the SOUTH for me to hang an American flag to show patriotism to my country of origin; America.  America is the only country embedded into my being.   Can I be Patriotic?  Am I Patriotic?  Is my allegiance to the Africa that I’ve never known? When I’ve asked people from outside of the country that come as immigrants, “Who is American?”  The answer provided normally is Caucasian.   Black American is “Black”, and Caucasian is American.  I almost drifted off into another blog, but I won’t press backspace because it’s necessary.  I couldn’t properly discuss this subject without at least mentioning that  “I” am not completely recognized on a consensus as an American.  What is patriotism?  Lack of Inclusion? I’ve often wondered why “Black” people who were brought as slaves more than a century ago are kept from their heritage and all flags because of broken records etc. BUT everyone else who came voluntarily can proudly say where their lineage comes from and even waive flags of other countries of origin. I’ve met people who mark “Caucasian” as their classification, yet the only LOVE that flows from their mouth is that of ITALY, IRISH, SCOTTISH, EUROPE etc.  The people from around the world who are aware of their heritage and proudly waive their flags.   Are we guilty of looking at ethnic groups and based on their physical appearance keeping them in a country of origin?  One can not LOOK Latino, because it is not a race, but we take part in racial profiling.  The culture also practices similar racism to that of America’s past and present.  If you look Asian, (which is a valid uniform ethnic group) then you are Asian, and not an American and etc….  Can one have pride without having EGOCENTRISM?     Egocentrism? Possibly.  Prejudice?  Could be.  Pride?  I’m sure it may be….  But where is the Red, White, and Blue line?

Patriotism is a cultural attachment to one’s homeland, excluding differences caused by the dependencies of the term’s meaning upon context, geography and philosophy. In a generalized sense applicable to all countries and peoples, patriotism is a devotion to one’s country.[citation needed]-WIKIPEDIA

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XOXOXO,

Others’Mother

For your reading pleasure…..

Egocentrism is characterized by preoccupation with one’s own internal world. Egocentrics regard themselves and their own opinions or interests as being the most important or valid. Self-relevant information is seen to be more important in shaping one’s judgments than do thoughts about others and other-relevant information (Windschitl, Rose, Stalkfleet & Smith, 2008). Egocentric people are unable to fully understand or to cope with other people’s opinions and the fact that reality can be different from what they are ready to accept.-Wikipedia

 

The word prejudice refers to prejudgement: i.e. making a decision before becoming aware of the relevant facts of a case. In recent times, the word has come to be most often used to refer to preconceived, usually unfavorable, judgments toward people or a person because ofgendersocial classagedisabilityreligionsexualityrace/ethnicitylanguagenationality or other personal characteristics.-Wikipedia

Pride is an inwardly directed emotion that carries two common meanings. With a negative connotation, pride refers to an inflated sense of one’s personal status or accomplishments, often used synonymously with hubris. With a positive connotation,pride refers to a satisfied sense of attachment toward one’s own or another’s choices and actions, or toward a whole group of people, and is a product of praise, independent self-reflection, or a fulfilled feeling of belonging. Philosophers and social psychologists have noted that pride is a complex secondary emotion which requires the development of a sense of self and the mastery of relevant conceptual distinctions (e.g., that pride is distinct from happiness and joy) through language-based interaction with others.[1] Some social psychologists identify it as linked to a signal of high social status.[2] In contrast pride could also be defined as a disagreement with the truth. One definition of pride in the first sense comes from St. Augustine: “the love of one’s own excellence”.[3] In this sense, the opposite of pride is either humility or guilt; the latter in particular being a sense of one’s own failure in contrast to Augustine’s notion of excellence.-Wikipedia

 

Black, White, Other

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Good Evening World Wide Web!  Today is the greatest day!  We are closer to perfection than we were yesterday!  I’m going to begin by saying, “Happy Groundhog Day!”  Punxsutanwney Phil didn’t see his shadow.  Pennsylvania’s most famous groundhog has forecast an early spring.  Ok..so for anyone unfamiliar, there is a legend in the United States that if this furry rodent, or groundhog sees his shadow in a place called Gobblers Knob in Pennsylvania, winter will last 6 more weeks.  If he doesn’t then spring will come earlier.  There’s a ceremony and all conducted by the “Inner Circle.”  Well today, cameras rolling, and no shadow.  My flowers are ready!  I come offering a great read.  The book “Black, White, Other” has gotten some good reviews.    Enjoy!

 

“Some OTHER RACE”

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Great Evening World Wide Web.  Today is a great day!  We are all closer to perfection than we were yesterday.   As I searched the internet to find the real measure of how our Department of Commerce, Bureau of the Census tracks our human population, I wanted to make sure that I could offer an actual example.  I want to begin by drawing your attention to question #8 that leads into #9.  This is important because Hispanics or Latinos are the nations largest minority group and growing.   I realize how important it may be to keep up with these growing statistics, but most people don’t.  I’ve heard, well, I’m not “Black” I’m African-American or vice versa.   There are Latinos who don’t know their race or races, if you ask them “What is your race?” They will proudly tell you Latino.  As I’ve reiterated, this is a cultural classification.  The problem is, MOST Latinos are “Mixed” or OTHER.  I would go as far as to say PLENTY of African-Americans or Blacks are also, but because of the history of this country, that dialogue is far off.    The thought processes behind the ideals that created and maintained the idea of racial segregation is why the Ethnicities are skewing the stats.  Here’s how I would answer these questions.   My children would check the box that say “OTHER” Latino origin,  Black, and American Indian.  That’s three boxes!!!  Alternatively, I may just CHECK THE BOX that says “SOME OTHER RACE” attempting to show my children are a mixture. A New Creation. Then I could attempt to explain by saying something like BLACK and LATINO or Blaxureno.  That’s a real head scratcher.  The problem with that answer is that one is a RACE and the OTHER is a culture.  My children are CULTURALLY AMERICAN.  I am an American, my mother, grandmother, and great-grandmother on both maternal and paternal sides were all born right here in America.  I married an immigrant, in the land of immigrants.  This is a growing dynamic in America.   Is melanin the issue? Precious cancer fighting, sun protecting melanin. (another blog)  What a way to skew some stats!  This is a sensitive yet important issue that we must work on….together.  This is a small lesson on how items are offered through our government.  You see, the results of these federal forms are used to decide civil rights laws, funding, & even redistricting of congressional districts.  Is it the form’s problem or do we need to add more boxes?  Will it stop the mixtures?  I really don’t think so unless we enact some older laws from the 1960s and 70s.   The problem is who I’m trying to tell you I am doesn’t fit our typical understanding anymore.   For this very reason the US Census Bureau is working to change some of the questions that we now use to track our current racial demographics.  Read more at the link below.

http://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2012/08/07/census-bureau-considers-changing-its-racehispanic-questions/

Is the answer to add more questions?  Is it just LATINOS who check other?  What about the people who prefer one racial name for a classification over another?  Could it be that PEOPLE have changed and don’t fit into our BLACK, WHITE, ASIAN rules?  Science says this is the base of all ethnicities and race.  Could it be race is completely evolving?  The “concept” that doesn’t exist, but we’ve all come to understand as our realities around the globe?  What do you think?  I would love to hear from you.  Share any comments or answers to these questions that you’d like.

As always, I appreciate your time.  I’d like to thank you for stopping by.  Please show your support by finding my Facebook and Twitter page @wecheckother.  LIKE the page to show your support.  I’m always looking for guest bloggers and people willing to share their stories.  Please contact me at wecheckother@yahoo.com.  Until the Next!

XOXOXO,

Others’Mother

I’ll Create My Own Identity!

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Great Evening World Wide Web!  Today is a wonderful day.  We are closer to perfection today than we were yesterday.  On this very first Sunday in 2013 I want to blog about a subject that I think most people who are of multiple races, ethnicities & cultures have heard.  I wouldn’t say it’s right or wrong.  I think personally that it is all about the “user” and how comfortable they feel in creating their own personal identity.  I’m sure there are many feelings on how this subject should be approached.   I think all identity is personal even if you identify with a singular box.  I realize that it really doesn’t begin to touch the issues that so many of the people who are “mixed” heritiage or couples in interracial or intercultural relationships have to deal with, but again these are a personal choice.    We’ve all heard these terms or similar ones: blaxican, blasian, blatino, blacknamese, blacklaos, blackapino, Caurean, Casian, ChexMex, Chigro, Filitina, Japorican, Mexipino, and the list goes on and on.  The attempt to find a box for a child of direct “mixed” heritage, where a new name is created.   Could you imagine a census with soooo many choices?  I think the boxes would be the entire questionnaire.  I’m not trying in any way to make light of the subject, but I am trying to make a point.  Maybe there will never be a way to identify all the beautiful uniqueness that humanity has created.  I do think however that the simple box OTHER will began to let that light shine.  I know that OTHER is one box, but it’s the hippest, most inclusive, colorful box in the list.   Atleast that’s what I tell my two beautiful kids.  They have friends and loved ones who identify with just one and have pride in one.  My 5 year old has even began to be pitched into why she is just “one” race based on her melanin content.  (That’s another blog)   It simply means that you have the priviledge to explain instead of just robotically checking a box.  It’s kinking the “norm” to the curb, and redifining the integrations of LOVE and the beginning of understanding what is unique.  OTHER!  WE CHEK OTHER.  If you hadn’t become fully aqauinted with the idea of wecheckother.com,  I really hope this begins to explain why this blog is here.  I’m excited to hear from you and look forward to learning together.  Let me know what you think.  How should “mixed” race, culture and ethnicities identify themselves?  Until til the next.

XOXOXO,

Others’Mother

Happy New Year from WE CHECK OTHER!

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Happy New Year World Wide Web!  2013!  I would like to begin by extending a personal invite for each of the members, subscrbers, and viewers to follow on facebook, and twitter:  @wecheckother.   New content for this brand new year is on the way.

I look forward to working with and interacting with each of you in the future!  I forward blessings and prosperity through the World Wide Web  to each of you in this upcoming year ahead of us all!  Cheers to learning, growing, sharing, giving, loving, living, life, and happiness!

XOXOXO,

Others’Mother

 

Secede or Not Secede? This is Amazing!

 

Good Afternoon World Wide Web!  Today is an OTHER day!  We are closer to perfection than we were yesterday.  Today I just want to touch on the letter above.  It is a letter that is discussing all of items willing to be given up by some 100,000 plus signatures that have been obtained from the state of Texas and throughout to secede from the United States.   This of course isn’t the actual letter, but you get an idea of EVERYTHING that anger and hatred is brewing up.  This OUT CRY of racial hatred is the result of President Barack Obama being re-elected by Electoral College Vote and Popular Vote.  The people of the United States spoke. Right?  It doesn’t seem like it.  Look at the where the signatures  that have been received throughout the United States are coming from…and counting.

  1. Alabama 28,576
  2. Alaska 7,153 and 3,038
  3. Arizona 21,125
  4. Arkansas 21,315
  5. California 13.277
  6. Colorado 20,302
  7. Connecticut 2,512
  8. Delaware 7,078
  9. Florida 32,265
  10. Georgia 30,054 and 11,740 and 7,230
  11. Hawaii 3,059
  12. Idaho 5,334
  13. Illinois 4,285 and 4,457
  14. Indiana 19,566
  15. Iowa 3,955
  16. Kansas 7,696
  17. Kentucky 17,447
  18. Louisiana 35,133
  19. Maine 3,336
  20. Maryland 2,724
  21. Massachusetts 3,043
  22. Michigan 18,024
  23. Minnesota 4,646
  24. Mississippi 17,146
  25. Missouri 18,434 and 13,060
  26. Montana 12,562
  27. Nebraska 6,489
  28. Nevada 9,543
  29. New Hampshire 4,779
  30. New Jersey 13,255
  31. New Mexico 4,211
  32. New York 14,101 and 7,686
  33. North Carolina 28,388
  34. North Dakota 10,822
  35. Ohio 10,585 and 7,774 and 2,865
  36. Oklahoma 16,806 and 8,682
  37. Oregon 13,765
  38. Pennsylvania 12,396 and 8,003
  39. Rhode Island 4,043
  40. South Carolina 22,313 and 13,158
  41. South Dakota 14,295 and 5,831
  42. Tennessee 29,050
  43. Texas 111,208
  44. Utah 7,543 and 6,025
  45. Vermont 622
  46. Virginia 4,261 and 7,576
  47. Washington 3,469 and 2,597
  48. West Virginia 6,925
  49. Wisconsin 6,046
  50. Wyoming 8,21

—-Examiner.com

What does this mean for an increasing climate of tense race relations in the United States of America?  What does this mean for the children of “mixed” couples in this country?  Does anyone have a story that they would like to share?  I would love to hear from you.  Comment and be sure to find me on Facebook and Twitter!  We can continue the conversation in the forum located at the top of the discussion column.   Until the next!  Stay encouraged.  A community is coming where color isn’t an issue.  We’re building one person at a time!

XOXOXOXO,

Others’Mother

 

 

 

The RACE of Trees! Fall Inspiration: Defining RACE!

Good Sunday Afternoon!  Today is an OTHER day!   Today we are closer to perfection than we were yesterday.   Today I’m sitting outside looking at Carolina Blue skies, and trees, that are green, yellow, red; all hues and everything in between.  How majestic.  It’s amazing how just sitting outside on a beautiful day, and all the colors are just so uplifting. With keeping with all that wecheckother will represent, today  I want to talk about race.  I feel that many people don’t understand why some people’s approach to race has been so counterproductive.  To begin RACE is a BIOLOGICAL term.  Race actually does not exist .  There are only species.   All the beauty in the US and the trees changing color is a gift.  One from nature that looks beyond the barriers of color and realizes that in chorus color is life changing.   We are still talking about the species of TREES!  There are so many different types of tree, but in the season of fall here in the US, they all turn hundreds of different colors.  This is an adaptation to this environment perhaps.  In the winter, here in America, almost all trees lose all of their leaves.  Maybe this gift was given to the U.S., because the DIVINE creator of all things knew that the people here would need to understand it most.  To be of nature and in nature are two different things as well.  I heard someone once say species stick with their kind.  Well KIND is a species not a RACE.  We are the HUMAN KIND: A species! In nature, two trees of the same species can turn two different colors.  It doesn’t change the tree’s kind at all.   Plant nurseries know this and combine roots of different colored plants to manipulate colors and create beautiful bouquets.   Extremist believe it or not have battled with the very notion over the decades of skin color equalling  a different species.  It’s like saying if two trees of the same species start out green in the summer and turn two different colors in the fall, then they are no longer of the same species.  That is false.   RACE is in Biology, a population of species differing geographically or genetically from other populations of THE SAME SPECIES.   Science KNOWS that race is not applicable to people because the division of humans into discrete types does not represent the true nature of the human biological variation.  Race has become nothing more than an important social class.  European scholars began their systematic study of worldwide human variation in the 18th century.  It ultimately created a hierarchy of the human kind into “better types” of humans.   The most notable that I found was that of German physician Johann Blumenbach (1752-1840)  Blumenbach concluded that all “light-skinned” people in Europe and adjacent pasts of western Asia and northern Africa belonged to the same race.  With this, he dropped the “European” race label and replaced it with “caucasian”  Ok.  So I am going to STOP here.  For the first time in my life even I noted that ASIAN is incorporated into this word.  Here is what Wikipedia gave me when I dug deeper.

The term Caucasian race (also CaucasoidEuropid, or Europoid)[1] has been used to denote the general physical type of some or all of the populations of EuropeNorth Africa, the Horn of AfricaWestern Asia,parts of Central Asia and South Asia.[2] Historically, the term has been used to describe many peoples from these regions, without regard necessarily to skin tone.[3]

That’s 3 continents that science supporting race says are the origins.  If race were true, then  White, Black, and Asian would be  the geographic origin of all the ethnicities we know today.   I have to resist my urge to want to teach, but honestly I have to allow my flesh to stand down for better understanding.  The only thing that you can stand on and ever be understood is the facts.  You give the knowledge and allow everyone to come to their own conclusions.

Although he continued to distinguish American Indians as a separate race, he regrouped dark-skinned Africans as “Ethiopian” and split those Asians not considered CAUC-ASIAN into two separate races: Mongolian (referring to most inhabitants of Asia, including China and Japan) and “Malay” (indigenous Australians, Pacific Islanders and OTHERS)  Yes OTHER existed in the beginning.  It more over supports that racial purity is rare, yet the movement forged forward to breed racial separation and hatred and we’ve come to know and understand today.

This physician was convinced that Caucasians were closest to the ideal original humans supposedly created in GOD’s image.  In vanity be basically noted the symmetry of the skulls, and the “pretty features.”   He then ranked them as the supreme human being.  He noted that all other races were the result of degeneration, by moving away from their place of origin and adapting to different environments and climates had degenerated them both physically and morally.    In other words, this scholar was saying that different race is only the result of adaptation to different environments.  It’s hard to believe that this study and countless others of this kind saturated Europe and were brought to a brand new America to found the nation.  How can you fix a house where the foundation was built improperly?  A painter built the hundred story building, when THE ARCHITECT & ENGINEER were  needed.  To compound this, there were test created that supported this theory that were completely bias, and honestly apart of a school system that failed so many.  This is RACE, and how it was born.  How it came to be.  Why classification into a box is so important.  It’s really to see where and how you fit into the social hierarchy.  Thanks for stopping by.  Until the next.  Let me know what you think.  I’d love to hear from you or just any exciting ideas or brainstorms you’d like to share about celebrating the people who have moved beyond these barriers to find and define the universal LOVE.

 

XOXOXO,

Others’Mother

 

 

Information from:

-Lwwontin, R.C. (1972) The appointment of human Diversity

-T. Dobzhansky et al. (eds) Evolutionary biology New York

-Shreeve, J. (1994) Terms of Estrangement

Race, Ethnicity & Our Census

Good Afternoon World Wide Web!  Today is an OTHER day!  We are closer to perfection today, than we were yesterday. WE CHECK OTHER is here to bring attention to mixed race children coming out of outdated boxes, to educate you when possible, and eventually lead up to a real discussion about race and cultural relations in the US and around the world.  I want to begin by acknowledging that I realize this idea has many facets.  There are social class items and minority relationships that have to be considered.    I have to admit that among some of even the same people who check the singular box that I check seem to think that I am betraying the “black” race with my project.  That I am not proud of my “African” heritage.  I think most of our subcultures are guilty of extremism.  I’ve seen it in every culture that I’ve had the opportunity to be exposed to.  We don’t have race problems; we have people problems.  Stereotypes and bias are road blocks.  Can we truly move forward as a nation focusing on the past?  I’m reminded of a couple that makes it 60 or 70 years together.  By this time they’ve either grown bitter or they’ve learned to take the present as the most valuable asset that they own.  We are in the present everyday.  There’s no one who can go back and change our past.  If there is, I want to meet them, only to marvel at them, but not to change a single solitary thing.  Most of us know our tests make us who we become and our resilience exemplifies our talents.  An opposite side mentality of standing your ground will not work.   The notion of standing on your side of the line and daring someone to cross it and refusing to never cross yourself.   This mentality will lay into the other side (racially) all of what you think about them, and attempt to change their mindset by forcefully displaying your own.  If you’ve ever been the only person of your racial classification in the room with a group of people of another who unsuccessfully try to relate but fail you know what I mean.  The bias, things that they like and don’t like about your race can sometimes come out in a failed attempt to relate to you.  There isn’t one race or culture that is guilty of this.   Racism is a problem in all colors of the rainbow because of the many years of forced separation, and frankly ignorance about the other side.  It’s the person who calls all Latinos Mexican, or all Asians Chinese.   A person who has never had someone at the dinner table who doesn’t a least resemble them has an extremely long way to go before grasping this concept or any other.  That problem doesn’t have a race tag on it.  Those people are only left to draw a conclusion from what main stream media gives them.       I want to share with you two articles in the NY Times that I thought you might find interesting.

NY Times Talking!!

NY Times Build Your Own Family Tree

In the late 1800’s the census included spaces for  1/4th black and 1/8th black.  There was even at points a  place for people to check mulatto with any percentile of black. The most common choices in that time were White, Black, Chinese, (the category to include all Asians) and American Indian.  That’s it.  Of course these marks were all in a turbulent time of America, where the grounds to stand on weren’t very equal.  We haven’t moved much further except for OTHER.  I would say it’s an acknowledgement that we realize that there are mixes that are going beyond our boxes but we don’t know how to describe them.  Even the boxes from the early 1800s acknowledge mixing with some of their choices, but again it was dismissed.  The “which one” are you tendency has become apart of the American culture that is deeply embed.

Someone might choose to ask me, why did you choose the name “We Check Other?” Aren’t you talking about your children?  I would reply yes,  I am talking about my children and the children of millions of other Americans and people around the world.   I’m not looking for a platform to just marvel over the “cuteness” of mixed children.  Although that is a perk, I really want to lay a true dialogue on the table.  America as we know it has changed and the more I research and look around, I see people from all walks of life trying to facilitate the conversation and brainstorm on how to move forward.  This yellow brick road will lead to DNA testing I feel.  Maybe then we can resolve some of the medical issues that puzzle us all.    Right now I CHECK OTHER for my children.  To me, the demographics themselves can’t seem to figure out the difference between race, culture, and ethnicity.  People are checking Ethnicity for race.  An Ethnicity is a group of people who collectively identify themselves as a distinct group based on various CULTURAL features such as SHARED LANGUAGE, CUSTOMS, & TRADITIONAL BELIEFS.  This has no mention of color.   I never realized this myself until I married a man who is ethnically Latino. I noticed that everyone knew the color spectrum but collectively they share pride in their ETHNIC heritage, just as American’s do.  The problem is that RACISM within their ethnicity still exists as it does in several cultures around the world.  Most commonly we equate a race to skin color, with hair texture running in a close 2nd.  Melanin is responsible for our skin tones.  Melanin ( Greek work Melas meaning BLACK) is the chemical responsible for dark pigmentation that helps protect against damage from ultraviolet radiation.  Melanin production is increased when exposed to the sun causing the skin color to deepen.  For this very reason people of darker skin are less likely to get sunburn or skin cancer than those with less melanin.  Who would have ever thought that divine creation would have created the skin to protect itself.  Popular culture makes it as though this is a curse.  I’ve always thought that the answer to some of our most puzzling medical questions are somewhere in the middle of all of us.  The place where we meet and cross.  That’s another blog post!    I’ve checked the box for BLACK my entire life and I gave birth to two children that are on 2 totally different sides of the color spectrum.  Their hair textures are even different.  There are so many really smart people scientific facts that go into explaining how and why this happens.  Unfortunately, if I go into learning and explaining the specifics I will have to charge tuition.  I’ll leave you there.  Until the next!

XOXOXO,

OthersMother

 

Back to Business! Our President Checks Other!

 

 

Map of Interracial Law Prohibition in the US.

Good Morning World Wide Web.  Today is a beautiful day.  We are closer to perfection today than we were yesterday.  Today we are getting back to business.  Meeting the need for our fellow human beings.  We meet that need by attempting to resolve the issues that could potentially make the world a better place for us all.  The vehicle has to be driven by passion.  That of diversity, education, and equality is what I carry in my soul.  Let’s take a drive! We check other is birthed from my passion as a mother of biracial children, from different cultural backgrounds, to draw attention to a reality that decided the Presidential Race.  Diversity.  Our nation is diversifying.  Yet the ideals of the past are still haunting us.  Interracial Marriage was prohibited by law until the 1970’s in most of the states in the U.S.A,    particularly the southern states that were represented in the confederacy.  Take a look at the election map and compare to the map above.

 

The voting trends can even be predicted from an old map of America based on the demographics.  It was right on point.  It almost looks like the maps are describing the same subjects.

“Change will not come if we wait for some other or some other time.  We are the one’s we’ve been waiting for.  We are the change that we seek” ~Barack Obama 44th President of the United States.

We are one day post Election Day in America.  Barack Obama was re-elected as the president of the United States.  This of course will make some inside and outside of this country both happy and sad.   A year of campaigning and countless ads by both parties to illustrate their stand on the issues that they felt most passionate about.  What we saw was a wounded America.  One that has not healed from past racial tensions, and an attachment to founding ideals of a superior race.  One that would like to have segregation and the financial élite remain the sole heirs to the thrones of victory.  There is healing to do on both sides.  Wouldn’t it take a man who can meet you in the middle to get there?  Well America spoke up last night and said “YES WE CAN.”   Barack Obama is bi-racial.  No matter how you look at it, whether you call him black, or see him as black, he still loves a mother that the United States considers a white woman.  He love grandparents that the United States consider white.  I’ve heard some accuse him of racial hatred, but how could it be so?  He loved and was nurtured by someone who looks different from him.  He can’t be accepted by their race, because of barriers.  For a Harvard educated man, I would conclude that it would make him want to learn more about the barriers and attempt to mend them.  His loved ones are on the other side.  He has a black America, that of course has accepted him with open arms.  In somewhat of a vain society he looks like the census.    I am a student of my studies!  I am always learning.  I am not perfect, but everyday I am getting closer.  We all are.  We check other is looking through my children’s eyes at the world around them.  Eyes that a child like President Barack Obama saw through.   My children love meatloaf and carne asada.  Why should our world continue to go in a direction that is not forward?  I understand the principles of the founders of America as do many of its citizens.   Checking Other opens a door, to explain that we have met at the barriers of our differences and found love.  We continue to create with the hope that it can make a difference in our world and the ones around us.  People have to deal first with what they can actually see.  What we see and have to admit, is that according to where you live, you see people who look different coming together and sharing their lives together.  One day, my vision for wecheckother.com is a community.  A community for everything from sharing recipes from diverse backgrounds to having diverse meet and greets.  Thank you for tuning in.  Please let me know of any feedback or great new ideas you have.  I’d love to hear from you.

XOXOXO,

OthersMother