Good Afternoon World Wide Web! Today is an OTHER day! We are closer to perfection today, than we were yesterday. WE CHECK OTHER is here to bring attention to mixed race children coming out of outdated boxes, to educate you when possible, and eventually lead up to a real discussion about race and cultural relations in the US and around the world. I want to begin by acknowledging that I realize this idea has many facets. There are social class items and minority relationships that have to be considered. I have to admit that among some of even the same people who check the singular box that I check seem to think that I am betraying the “black” race with my project. That I am not proud of my “African” heritage. I think most of our subcultures are guilty of extremism. I’ve seen it in every culture that I’ve had the opportunity to be exposed to. We don’t have race problems; we have people problems. Stereotypes and bias are road blocks. Can we truly move forward as a nation focusing on the past? I’m reminded of a couple that makes it 60 or 70 years together. By this time they’ve either grown bitter or they’ve learned to take the present as the most valuable asset that they own. We are in the present everyday. There’s no one who can go back and change our past. If there is, I want to meet them, only to marvel at them, but not to change a single solitary thing. Most of us know our tests make us who we become and our resilience exemplifies our talents. An opposite side mentality of standing your ground will not work. The notion of standing on your side of the line and daring someone to cross it and refusing to never cross yourself. This mentality will lay into the other side (racially) all of what you think about them, and attempt to change their mindset by forcefully displaying your own. If you’ve ever been the only person of your racial classification in the room with a group of people of another who unsuccessfully try to relate but fail you know what I mean. The bias, things that they like and don’t like about your race can sometimes come out in a failed attempt to relate to you. There isn’t one race or culture that is guilty of this. Racism is a problem in all colors of the rainbow because of the many years of forced separation, and frankly ignorance about the other side. It’s the person who calls all Latinos Mexican, or all Asians Chinese. A person who has never had someone at the dinner table who doesn’t a least resemble them has an extremely long way to go before grasping this concept or any other. That problem doesn’t have a race tag on it. Those people are only left to draw a conclusion from what main stream media gives them. I want to share with you two articles in the NY Times that I thought you might find interesting.
In the late 1800’s the census included spaces for 1/4th black and 1/8th black. There was even at points a place for people to check mulatto with any percentile of black. The most common choices in that time were White, Black, Chinese, (the category to include all Asians) and American Indian. That’s it. Of course these marks were all in a turbulent time of America, where the grounds to stand on weren’t very equal. We haven’t moved much further except for OTHER. I would say it’s an acknowledgement that we realize that there are mixes that are going beyond our boxes but we don’t know how to describe them. Even the boxes from the early 1800s acknowledge mixing with some of their choices, but again it was dismissed. The “which one” are you tendency has become apart of the American culture that is deeply embed.
Someone might choose to ask me, why did you choose the name “We Check Other?” Aren’t you talking about your children? I would reply yes, I am talking about my children and the children of millions of other Americans and people around the world. I’m not looking for a platform to just marvel over the “cuteness” of mixed children. Although that is a perk, I really want to lay a true dialogue on the table. America as we know it has changed and the more I research and look around, I see people from all walks of life trying to facilitate the conversation and brainstorm on how to move forward. This yellow brick road will lead to DNA testing I feel. Maybe then we can resolve some of the medical issues that puzzle us all. Right now I CHECK OTHER for my children. To me, the demographics themselves can’t seem to figure out the difference between race, culture, and ethnicity. People are checking Ethnicity for race. An Ethnicity is a group of people who collectively identify themselves as a distinct group based on various CULTURAL features such as SHARED LANGUAGE, CUSTOMS, & TRADITIONAL BELIEFS. This has no mention of color. I never realized this myself until I married a man who is ethnically Latino. I noticed that everyone knew the color spectrum but collectively they share pride in their ETHNIC heritage, just as American’s do. The problem is that RACISM within their ethnicity still exists as it does in several cultures around the world. Most commonly we equate a race to skin color, with hair texture running in a close 2nd. Melanin is responsible for our skin tones. Melanin ( Greek work Melas meaning BLACK) is the chemical responsible for dark pigmentation that helps protect against damage from ultraviolet radiation. Melanin production is increased when exposed to the sun causing the skin color to deepen. For this very reason people of darker skin are less likely to get sunburn or skin cancer than those with less melanin. Who would have ever thought that divine creation would have created the skin to protect itself. Popular culture makes it as though this is a curse. I’ve always thought that the answer to some of our most puzzling medical questions are somewhere in the middle of all of us. The place where we meet and cross. That’s another blog post! I’ve checked the box for BLACK my entire life and I gave birth to two children that are on 2 totally different sides of the color spectrum. Their hair textures are even different. There are so many really smart people scientific facts that go into explaining how and why this happens. Unfortunately, if I go into learning and explaining the specifics I will have to charge tuition. I’ll leave you there. Until the next!