Good Afternoon World Wide Web! I want to share a letter. This letter could be written by any mother with some of the same questions that this letter addresses. It will pose some major questions and spark discussion.
I have a few questions. It’s one that may or may not take very long to answer depending upon your views of the world that we share. I’m preparing my son to become a productive member of our society and I would like to know what your reaction to the love of my life will be after I add all the love, support, lessons, and self-esteem I can to him at home. In my home he enjoys a very rich experience of having multiple languages and cultures in his everyday interactions. After I release him to you, your views, rejection, or opinions could reverse everything that I’ve placed my life into building up. If I listen to the news, according to his melanin content that I adore, he will be profiled and have to walk in fear of being jailed because the statistics aren’t in his favor. I love my baby. There is nothing that I wouldn’t do to make sure that he can have every opportunity that the world could offer him. I’m his mother! My son is Hispanic and Black. I know that the statistics actually aren’t in his favor on either side. My letter represents so many who have a relationship with someone different from themselves. We could even imagine that my son was Black and White (Non-Hispanic) No matter the race, the question would be similar.
My afro isn’t exactly the pillar of beauty in the Latino community. I watch television in Spanish and I can count on one hand the number of people who look like me or my baby on the collective of their broadcasts. I fear for him because the love that he feels here at home could cause him to walk blindly into a place where he would not feel accepted. That’s an issue for me. When he looks at his father, who provides an un-bias love to him, I’m often reminded that everyone will not be so nice.
On the other hand, in the Black Community everyone with an ounce of black is accepted. To be honest, in my community, once his or her hair follicle is opened and his or her skin is lightened, he becomes even more accepted. I would go as far as to say, he becomes even more popular in my community because he or she is now, “light-skinned black” I’ll admit this is something that if you aren’t apart of this group it may not be of importance to you. It’s one that my race will continue to work on as time continues on. So let me ask.
Does my son now forget his father because I’m a black woman? As I prepare my son to be a “black” man, I often try and expect what you will reverse. How do I protect my baby from the racism in the Latino community? How do I prepare my son for the racism in America? How do I help him properly nurture all of his identity?
A concerned “Black” Mother who Checks “Other” for her child
So there you have it. Let me know what you think. Thanks for stopping by.
Until the next,